I can't help but wonder. On the surface it looks as if it's the case, but think it through again, is the intention there or is it simply just a case of misunderstanding.
As Takahina is slowly progressing his life, reaching his 22nd year in this earth, I have been through a couple stages in life and various situation resembling mine as such now, to be actually spending time and money for someone.
Being a "Singaporean Foreign Student" for about a week being the latest case. But then, it kinda happens continuously actually.
When in Secondary school, I was the same, actually helping someone unconditionally to be fed back without an "adequate" return. (k, shit too much of the comm law stuff is stuck in my heaD)
In my normal life now, it's the same. Example helping some of my friends with their Japanese language, going to study with them together when I don't really "need" to, I can simply study at home my Japanese since I only need to revise as my notes are all prolly within my grasp and understanding.
There are many favors you do for people. There aren't many who will repreciate it back to you.
But then, is there really a need to be done back a favor?
I have looked at the horoscope lately, on Pisces, summarising it kinda just says Piscesians are all self sacrificing bozos with mask on their face to protect themselves....
In other words we're just 2 Gim Hee (Goldfish), go to 1 end of the fishbowl and forget about the other end.
That's good wadddddddddd........
Does it matter that you know you're being used?
To the very utilised Takahina, it doesn't really matter that much anymore. True in the past when I know I was remotely utilized, I grew mad and gave the nickname of "Ficmen" to label all fickle woman who used people whenever they are useful, and switch to another person as long as that person is saturated.
So sadly to say, Takahina has been made used for since a long time ago, for my uni cliques, need not worry, it's not the first time and won't be the last.
My late tuition teacher once said that when you do something for someone, it's out of goodwill, and you don't expect returns whatsoever. You can do something to someone, going out all the way and be forgotten by the next week by that someone. It's natural. Because if you expect something in return, that's not good will anymore, that's a purposeful intention.
So what, I help out Little Kid *hint hint*, I expect her to like me in return? I printed lecture notes for the Ipoh Princess, I expected something in return? In the past I helped out PP, I expected her to like me in return? I helped out my Japanese lesson friends, I give cheap drum lessons, I tutored my cousin, , I lend money to my brothers, I organized events for all my brothers, I do all this and all that, for all of this I expect something in return? Be it even materialistic, tangible returns or not.
No. That is not helping out in the Takahinian sense. I even expect most people to be unwittingly unappreciative to the things people have done for them. For my cousin example, I gave her only 1 tuition, I think she could have forgotten about it?? I don't know.
The simple sense in helping people, is to just help, and ignore whatever comes afterwards. True it could be frustrating that people take you for granted, as most you just stop helping, no one would blame you. Unfortunately, Takahina can't, taking into both personality wise and horoscope wise, I'm too "self sacrificing" for my own good? Naahhhh...
It's just because Singaporeans are somehow borned calculative, we have that gene/DNA within us that says never do things for free.
Like what Joker-cat has said, "If you're good in something, never do it for free." So conclusion wise Singaporeans are all jokers la.
If there is one thing in media that can relate to this, it has got to be those donation drive that says...
"Donate... and stand to win this car!!"
Fuck, can't the organization just donate the car? KNNBCCB. It only shows how commercialization bastardizes everything remotely good.
Fat Ass on the right, "I won the car!! OMFG!! WOO HOO..." *Jumps around like some mad gorilla.*
Host on the left, "Yo bitch, give him the toy car, his donation is only worth that much. Besides we will never give the car away, it's our boss's car used to con idiots like black dudes, Singapore aunties and Bush..."
To all those who thought that Takahina only helps pretty girls, you're like so wrong.
The Takahina's Law of Helping:
1. Must be for a valid reason why you can't do it yourself
Self-explanatory. People have to be independent as much as possible.
2. Not too troublesome at all for me
Self-explanatory. You don't expect me to go all the way to Joo Koon library (if there is 1) to help you return a book on my rest day at in Tampines right!?!!?
3. The level of "closeness" I have with you is directly proportionate to the level of help I'll give you, this is attributing due to awkward reasons, and responsibility reasons.
You don't ask your not so close friend to help you do things like settle HP bills, extend Visa etc etc right??
4. My expertise in the field of topic.
There is no way you can get me to give you a tuition on parking cars. Neither will you want Junrong to teach you how to drink and drive... I mean his driving makes my brothers all SKAAAARREEEDDDD...
Look at this face, you know you're scared.
P.s: Shion Wah... what are you doing behind??
As long as the help/favor meets the above requirements, everything is fine. :)
So in a note, please don't mistake my kindness for some sort of evil intention. But at the same time, please don't assume you can take Takahina for granted. If you reach the level of (-) in terms of relationship, I won't only not help you, I may hurt you...
Heh Heh Heh Heh... Har Har HAr HAr....
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PS: Due to Serene wanting a list of my "wants/needs/desire", I'll put it up in my blog for this month until the 16th.... Shamelessly...
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